I've noticed something awkward about the way that I'm wired (maybe that should read: "something else")...I feel more comfortable with my role in grief than I do in celebration.
What I mean by that isn't that I enjoy it more, for myself or other people, but that I'm comfortable with understanding what is an appropriate response.
If I hear that someone started a new relationship...I don't know what kind or level of celebration is appropriate.
If I hear that someone's relationship ended...I generally know how to walk through that process.
Similar things are true about death and healing, miscarriage and pregnancy, job acquiring and job losing, etc...
I tend to understand how to respond in times of grief but rarely in times of celebration. I know better what to say to the family that has lost someone than to the family whose daughter or son just got married.
This might be strange, particularly as I've lived a life with far more to celebrate than to grieve, but sometimes celebration is hard for me.
Grief on the other hand, gives me a clear role to play.
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